Interesting!

Ok, I know I said I was going to post about my ex-husband, and I'm sure you're all a little curious...but I'm going to have to postpone that.  Instead, I'm going to share something that my counselor gave me to look at when I went to counseling after my break up.  It's interesting and something everyone should check out!  You go through and put your answers and hope that the person you choose to marry feels the same way as you!  :) Well, that's the basic idea, you get what I mean.

50-Item List of Helpful Marriage Similarities

1.     Socio-economic background of family

2.     Intelligence

3.     Formal education

4.     Verbal skills

5.     Expected roles for both persons within marriage

6.     Views about power distribution within the family

7.     Desired number of children

8.     When a family should be started

9.     Child rearing views

10. Political philosophy

11. Views about smoking, alcohol and drugs

12. Amount of involvement with in-laws

13. Sense of humor

14. Punctuality

15. Dependability

16. Desire for verbal intimacy and ability to be intimate

17. The role of conflict and how to resolve it

18. The way to handle anger

19. How friendships with the opposite sex should be handled

20. Expected amount of privacy and rules for its use

21. Level of ambition

22. Life goals

23. Attitudes about weight

24. Religious and spiritual beliefs and preferences

25. Amount of church involvement

26. Family spiritual involvement

27. Hobbies and interests

28. Type of music enjoyed

29. Energy level for physical activities

30. Sexual drive and sexual interests

31. Amount of income to be spent and saved

32. How money should be allocated (clothes, vacation, etc.)

33. Amount of money to be given away and to whom

34. Degree of risks to be taken with investments

35. Attitudes about cleanliness—house, clothes, body, etc.

36. Ways of handling sickness

37. Health standards—when to see a doctor

38. Interpersonal and social skills

39. Amount and type of social involvement preferred

40. Geographical area in which to live

41. Size and style of house

42. Type of furniture and decoration

43. Amount and type of travel preferred

44. How to spend vacations

45. How to celebrate major holidays

46. How much time to spend together

47. When to go to sleep and get up

48. Temperature of home during the day and night

49. Activity during meals

50. Television programs preferred


xoxo,
Me