Happy Mother's Day!!

Yesterday was Mother's Day brunch at mom's nursing home.  It turned out to be a gorgeous day, it hasn't been that warm in...well, I don't know how long.  So my siblings (2 of the 3 anyway) and I went up there to have some brunch and mimosas!!  It was hilarious actually, because the lady who was serving the mimosas kept stopping back by our table asking if we wanted more and naturally we did!  Normally it was my little brother who replied that he did and then she'd look at me and say "what about you?  I know you want more."  Why me?!  I'm the sweet and innocent one!!  But she was right, I did want more.  Even though I look awful because I got no sleep the night before, here are some pictures for your viewing pleasure!!  And maybe one day an entry will be about my mom; what happened to her and why she's in a nursing home.  Maybe...

Here's one of our stacks of mimosa cups.  We had 2 or 3 stacks throughout the 1.5 hours.

Kevey with Mary.  He's probably going to hell for that, but we'll blame his actions on the mimosas.

Mom and me.

Mom, me, Lisa and Kevin.

Lisa, Kevin, me and Mom.

All of us again, with my brother-in-law Nevada as well.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all the moms out there!!  And may I add, better you than me.

xoxo,

Me

My Ex-Husband (part 4).

If you're just stopping by, you can catch up by starting here, then going here, and finally going here.

Alright!  Where did I leave off?  Right, so we were living the good life, exploring California and I was making friends!  Though our first year was full of trials and tribulations, we survived it, and in the end I think it made us so much stronger.  Then, as we got into the second year, things started taking a weird twist.

My Ex-Husband was becoming less interested in doing activities.  One of the guys in his shop played this game World of Warcraft (here on out referred to as WoW) and had a blast playing it.  My Ex-Husband wanted to try it out so he bought it and was pretty interested in it.  At first I really didn't mind, I had my BFF and other people to hang out with, so while he was playing that I was able to keep myself occupied doing other things.  And in March of 2006 my sister flew out to Cali and we all went to Vegas!  It was really fun, except I could tell that something was weird with My Ex-Husband.  Come to find out later it was that he was basically having withdrawals from not playing WoW.  I'd say late March/early April was when I really started seeing a change in him.  He became very withdrawn, never wanted to hang with our friends on the weekends, never wanted to go to LA or San Diego, nothing.  All he wanted to do was sit his ass in front of the computer and play WoW.  Like I said, at first it didn't bother me, but a person can only take so much neglect.  So when it got to the point where when he came home from work he'd instantly sit at the computer, BDU's and combat boots still on, I knew this was going to be a bad thing.  He would ask me to serve him dinner at the computer, he'd stay up until the wee hours of the morning playing, even though he had to be up early for work the next day.  That was his life now.  I guess because it's a fantasy world and it was more interesting than the real world.  There was this feature on the game where you could "chat" with the people on your team or whatever through a microphone.  So he got a headset that had a mic and headphones on it.  I can't tell you how many times I'd be watching tv ALONE and he'd saying something so I'd say "what babe?" and he'd point to the mic on his headset.  Oh...I should've known you weren't talking to me.

This went on for months, it got so tiring for me to watch TV alone and be rejected when I wanted to have sex with him because he was "in the middle of a raid, just 10 more minutes" that I'd just hang out with my BFF all the time.  Which, of course, then he blamed me that I was hanging out with her too much and I was becoming different.  Uhhh...no, I'm just distancing myself from you because you'd rather fuck around on the computer than be a husband to your wife.  By the time July rolled around we were really bad.  We'd just moved into a newer house on base because ours were old and being torn down, and we were barely speaking...and obviously having no sex.  Right before we'd moved out of the house I told him I wasn't happy, we got into a huge fight at one point and he locked me in the bathroom with him so my BFF's husband couldn't come pick me up and take me away.  Then a few days later he came home from work and suggested we have a baby.  Oh, ok!  Because that will solve all of our problems, having another person for you to neglect, and leave me to be a single mother.  I'm ok, thanks.

I decided to take a vaca to visit a friend, but when my BFF went to take me to the airport, the ONE road to the airport (literally one road to get to this airport) was shut down because a tanker had turned over.  So, instead of a vaca away from Cali I just stayed at my BFF's house.  We got away for a few days and visited her dad's house in San Louis Obispo, which actually excited me because to get there you have to take the road that James Dean was driving on when he died.  I'm am in love with James Dean.  I digress.  My Ex-Husband found out that I wasn't actually out of town (he called the airline because I wouldn't tell him where I was going) and told me I needed to help him clean out our old house so it would pass inspection.  I decided to just do it, I wasn't trying to be ugly.  He picked me up and we headed over there, on the way I asked him if he could please take that game off the computer, he said yes.  I was excited, but I felt it was too good to be true, so I asked if he was serious and he said "hah, no."  Really nice, right?!  That's how much I apparently meant to him.  He chose a computer game over his own wife, the woman he swore he'd love forever.  I couldn't take it anymore, it was just too much.  Does anyone know what it's like to have a game picked over you?  How it feels to be an actual living, breathing human being and a stupid $50 GAME somehow seems better than you?  Well, it doesn't feel good.  I know people are probably thinking that it's easy to control that, that I should've told him he couldn't keep his subscription (you have to pay a monthly fee), but he made his own money and as much as I pushed him to delete it, he obviously didn't want to.  I really don't know how I could've forced him to stop.

We filed for divorce just short of our 2 year anniversary.  And in the state of CA it takes 6 months and a day from the day that you file for it to be finalized.  We went through a legal service to take care of all the headache of it and in March 2007 we were officially divorced.  I make that sound so easy.  It wasn't.  I had to deal with so much fuss from him the whole time until it was final.  He harassed me all the time, calling me a whore, saying I cheated on him.  Ohhhh ok, so now it's all MY fault?!  Ridiculous.  He actually told his parents that, so they basically never wanted to have anything to do with me.  I actually kinda feel like that hurt more than breaking it off with him because his parents were always such a positive part of my life and they weren't the ones who did me wrong.  To this day he tells people that he thinks I cheated on him.  Awful.  I realize he had to make something up to make him not look like the piece of shit who ruined our marriage, but come on!  You couldn't come up with something else?  That's a little dramatic.

So, that's the shortened version of my short lived marriage!  The funny thing is that we actually became civil with each other about 2 years ago and things seemed to be looking up for a bit.  He toyed with the idea of us getting back together...I won't lie, I considered it once he brought it up.  He even sent me flowers and a teddy bear for V-Day last year and I sent him a card...but then he goes back to being his childish self and I realize that I can't stand to deal with a child.

Next relationship we'll discuss is The Rebound.

xoxo,
Me

Girls Rule, Boys Drool.

My friend from work requested another Girl Power CD because the first one was so amazing!!  This time I'm going mostly old school, here's what I've got:

White Liar - Miranda Lambert
Piece of my Heart - Janis Joplin
Cold Hearted Snake - Paula Abdul
Heart of Glass - Blondie
A Little Bit Stronger - Leighton Meester (from Country Strong)
Straightjacket Feeling - All American Rejects
You Lie - The Band Perry
Harden my Heart - QuarterFlash
Fighter - Christina Skankuilera
Stronger - Britney Spears
Tainted Love - Soft Cell
These Boots are Made for Walking - Nancy Sinatra
Here I go Again - Whitesnake
Survivor - Destiny's Child
Everything's Gonna be Alright - Bob Marley
You Give Love a Bad Name - Bon Jovi
You're so Vain - Carly Simon

Hope she likes this one just as much!!  :)

xoxo,
Me

A little recap.

It's weird, last week I actually had plans.  A lot of plans.  That never happens to me, remember I'm the boring girl!!

Monday, while I was leaving work, my gf called me and wanted to meet up for Happy Hour.  First of all, I'm not a big drinker, and second of all...I'm not a big drinker.  But, why the heck not?!  Sometimes you just gotsta!  Plus, it was one of the nicest days Ohio has seen, so I needed to enjoy it all I could!  So we had a few drinks and it was nice to just sit outside and soak up the sun.

Tuesday I headed up to a bar (this time no drinking for me) to see my friend's boyfriend do some comedy.  It was a good time, there was this one guy who was absolutely HILARIOUS, I was almost peeing my pants.  Then the closer was this girl who plays a ukulele.  She starts telling a joke and then says "I wrote a song about that" and sings some song that's hysterical.  My favorite was when she starts talking about her being in the Girl Scouts and goes into her song, then pauses and says "I forgot to tell you, this song is about how Girl Scouts are like prostitutes," hahahaha!!  I was DYING!!

I don't think I did anything on Wednesday, which was probably best because I got home so late on Tuesday night.  If I was smart I went to bed really early, or attempted to anyway.  I hate when I can remember something from just a week ago.  I blame it on all the guys I dated that had horrible memories and I had to remember everything for both of us.  That would make ones brain start to mess up, at least I think so.

Thursday I cleaned out my old car in hopes I'd be getting a new one on Friday!  Then I went to my sister's house for a sleepover, as usual.  Hung out with her and the bro-in-law and headed to bed after watching some movie...I think.  And I was too excited to sleep, I was up until 1am texting people who aren't on East Coast time.

Friday, as we all know, I went car shopping and fell in like with my car salesman...oh, and I got my new car!!  :)  So, ya know how I mentioned that my friend was the one who referred me to said car salesman? I came up with an amazing game plan with my sister!  First of all, you should know that my sister (who is almost 33) insisted we Facebook stalk the salesman as soon as we got back to her house...so we did.  She was good about getting info out of him while we were at the dealership, but we didn't really know how to go about asking whether or not he has a gf.  So that's where the Facebook stalking came into play.  His page was private, unfortunately, and all we could see was that he was interested in women.  I take that as a win...at least he wasn't gay!  It didn't say anything about being in a relationship, but who knows??  She said that since she's married she'll probably end up adding him on Facebook because it wouldn't be weird.  Sounds good to me!  I'm not on Facebook, so I can check him out through hers then, yesssss!!  Ok, way off track, back to my plan of action!!  I text my friend and said that we should meet for drinks sometime soon as a thank you, and when we meet for drinks I'm going to say something along the lines of "first of all, you should've warned me your friend is way cute so I didn't look like shit when I bought my car...and secondly, why do your guy friends never tell their female friends when they have good looking guy friends?!"  I know, it'd probably be a better plan if I told my friend to invite his friend, but I'm way too chicken shit for that, I'll admit it.  So, hopefully my plan has the result I'm looking for!  :)  Friday night I had another sleepover at my sister's because I was going to visit some friends the next day and figured I'd stay another night for shits and gigs...plus, we had to catch up on The Royal Wedding.  Thank goodness for DVR so I could fast forward through almost the entire ceremony.  Too much singing and such for me.

Believe it or not, I already put over 200 miles on my car.  I put 200 on it in just a day actually.  I was so excited!  My old car was such a rough ride that I'd hate having to travel long distances, but this baby is such a smooth ride it wasn't a problem at all!  So I went to lunch and bowling with one of my gf's for her birthday and then went to dinner with one of my besties and let him drive my car.  He was very excited!  :)

Sunday I did some day drinking with one of my gf's who is going through a divorce and her soon-to-be-ex husband is a complete asshole, so she needed some drinks!!  Then, true to my weirdness, I met up with this guy who was in town visiting one of his friends.  I say true to my weirdness because I had never met him before...we started talking through this app called "What's Good" and got along so we exchanged numbers.  Hadn't heard from him in awhile because I was dating someone, so I took him out of my phone, off my yahoo and all that.  Then I saw he'd been messaging me on Yahoo, because of some weird update they did on their mail where you can see your conversations, except I'd never gotten any of them.  Then I realized it was probably because he wasn't on my list anymore, so I added him and he happened to be coming to Cleveland that weekend.  So we met up for some Starbucks.  Don't worry, I made sure to check in on FourSquare where I was, just in case I was abducted!  ;)

I started my new position yesterday and it's slightly overwhelming.  But I think I'll get a routine down...sooner or later.  And then everything should be ok!  I also went to my gf's house last night so we could watch Gossip Girl together and my emotions were all over the place!!  Ugh, this show knows that they can have some shitty episodes and then have ONE amazing episode and suck me back in!!  I'd rather be addicted to crappy TV than drugs, so I'll deal with it.  Buuuut, we had some time before GG started and I realized that Rue 21 had opened up in our mall, so we went up there for some (possible) retail therapy.  I came home with the CUTEST pair of pink heels!!  They were only $20 and they made me feel pretty, so I couldn't pass them up!

My iPhone camera doesn't do them justice.  The lighting in my office is so crappy.  But, seriously, you get the idea...and how fab are these?!  It's love.

Well, that's as exciting as I get, I think.  Soooo...I bid you all adieu!  :)

xoxo,

Me

My baby.

Here it is!!  Looks weirdly almost purplish in this picture, but I assure you, it's "taupe grey" as the dealership calls it.  And I freaking love it more than anything!!  SOOOO happy!! :) :)

Still trying to determine whether or not it's a girl or boy and a name.  Any suggestions??  My last car was a girl named Cherry - it was red and I love cherry things, so it made sense.

xoxo,

Me